Miscellaneous => The Lounge => Topic started by: Geddy on May 14, 2018, 08:28 PM

Title: Condolences - Stanmarsh
Post by: Geddy on May 14, 2018, 08:28 PM
Sadly I'm here to inform folk of the passing of Stanmarsh's mam.  Dawn was a gem, a character and a fighter but sadly has lost her fight.  I'm sure you will all join me in hoping for all the best for Mark and his family and offer any support in any way we can.

All the best fella... take care.
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Post by: niallquinn on May 14, 2018, 09:08 PM

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Post by: altharic on May 14, 2018, 10:48 PM
She was a heck of a character if she thought you needed to be told you were told.

Take care mate look after yourself.
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Post by: Tommy c on May 14, 2018, 11:39 PM
Sorry to hear of your loss,i wish you all the  best.
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Post by: Daryl on May 15, 2018, 09:44 AM
Hugs and love Mark x
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Post by: wearecity on May 15, 2018, 05:47 PM
Really sorry to hear about your mum Mark.

As they say, a person, can have several fathers, but only one true mother.
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Post by: DAD on May 15, 2018, 05:50 PM
Thinking of you at this sad time Mark.
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Post by: barcrest junky on May 15, 2018, 08:50 PM
Sorry to hear this Mark. My condolences at this sad time.
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Post by: Marlon36 on May 16, 2018, 06:47 AM
Sorry to hear of your loss, my condolences to you and your family.
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Post by: stanmarsh14 on May 16, 2018, 08:58 AM
Forgive the rather sombre tone folks, but think I best explain myself with regards to my comments on my Screen Play thread (MPU Mecca) and Facebook.

Monday morning, had to rush mum (Dawn) in to the QMC, Nottingham, with a suspect over dose.

Hell of a battle in A&E, moved to ICU, and by 7PM, we (Myself, sister, and other relations) unfortunately lost her.

Mental Health even to this day, is one of the great unknowns, and you ask yourself constantly, what could have I done to prevent this, even as her carer? Truth be told, not a clue.

All I can say as some general advice to all, is don't suffer in silence, talk to people, let the ones you most cherish and trust know you need help, and to those who can help, even a kind word for those in need can help..... sometimes amazing what this kind word can do to a person who's suffering.

At this point in time, I have absolutely no clue how to move on (Been her full-time carer for near on 20 years) or what to do next, but certainly for the next two weeks or so, not going to worry about it, though I am concerned as hell what to do with the cat, much as I love Chorlton to death, I live in a top floor flat, and next to no income for the foreseeable future.

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Post by: stanmarsh14 on May 16, 2018, 09:06 AM
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Post by: andy-1 on May 16, 2018, 06:08 PM
Sorry to hear this, condolences to you and your family.
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Post by: evo on May 16, 2018, 08:59 PM
Feel sorry for your loss as its never nice to lose anyone. Unfortunately Mental health is on the rise or should i say its always being there but never really talked about. Am a mental health mentor at work as a sideline to my main job and yes it is good to talk to someone about anything no matter how small the issue may be so we can guide you to the right services within the company. But the thing is the older generation seem to look upon mental health the wrong way and think if you a bit that way your going to get locked up in a padded cell or if you tell friends and family your looked upon as been weak and a let down.

This attitude needs to change,it doesn't matter how old/young,color or gender it can affect everyone.We all have problems from time to time and it could be anything from money problems as us gamblers should know about,to something like loss of a job and not knowing what the future holds that sends people into worry etc.

With the stress of life which the human race has created its only going to get worse.


People really do need to talk and not be shamed how big or how small the problem is!


As i said at the beginning am really sorry for your loss but what you don't want to do is bottle it up yourself and go down that path,you have friends and family don't push them aside and try to deal with this yourself talk to each other please,and there always friends on here that would listen to you if need be.


Take care of each other.


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Post by: stanmarsh14 on May 17, 2018, 01:42 AM
Surprising where you can find help in this world.

Posted about my dilemma on the Disabled People Against Cuts (DPAC) page (Facebook), and had a member over in the Grantham area, give me some very useful words of support as well as links, so I can move forward in this mess.

Phillipa Paulette, you are an angel!

Also got mum's shrink phoning me tomorrow, who fortunately is based over at Ilkeston Community Hospital, so if needs must, not too much of a problem to get to.

Big worry, is the DWP, however got 8 weeks continuation from what Phillipa has found out, and a friend with disabilities has contacted me about a poss house share, which will allow him to move out from his mum's, and give him the independence he desires, though this may mean me moving to South / West Yorkshire (Always wanted to move to Sheffield anyway), and I already have a few friends and ex gaffer in that area (Gaffer was here for me when I lost me dad when I was 18).

​Also got a friend who works with ICU as an independent legal officer, working on a lot of cases for the Healthcare & Professions Council (HCPC), who basically rips apart barristers in the High Courts of London.... or a Professional bastard as he calls himself :D
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Post by: Marlon36 on May 17, 2018, 06:17 AM
I'm so sorry, I can't even begin to imagine what you and your family must be going through at this sad and difficult time.

As someone who has worked in a Mental Health Hospital and someone who suffered with Mental Health problems, I know what a dreadful bastard of an illness it is. Not only on how bad it effects the person but also in some cases on how it can effect the closest people to the person who suffers with it.

I'm glad that you're finding some help, I'm sure everything will sort itself out. Best wishes to you and your family, Mark.
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Post by: stanmarsh14 on Jun 21, 2018, 07:04 PM

Service was done yesterday at Bramcote Crematorium, Nottingham.

Family from Wales, Middlesbrough and here in Long Eaton, along with some close friends in attendance, and even some faces I did not think would come, all in a rather civilised, non-religious send off.

The celebrant (In lieu of when you would expect a Minister etc), was amazing, even a few funnies thrown in, like getting my niece's age wrong, mum's some what dirty mind and that..... guess it helped that he had worked several jobs at the very same crem before, so knew the place very well.

To get to the point, the wake afterwards was done at The Bell Inn, Sawley (Short walk from Long Eaton Train Station, and quite close to my flat too), hosts being the Ian Lager (Manager), and Laura Beaty (Both long time friends of my sister's)..... guy's, you did a cracking job putting this on, making everyone feel welcome, despite accommodation being a bit tight..... Could not have asked for more.

Ian, pleasing to see, that even being a bit restricted what beers you can have on, you still managed to get the likes of Blue Monkey, Dancing Duck, and a few others on in your place, and the DD Aye Up was perfect.

Folks, if you are ever in the area, give this place a visit, you will find a selection for everyone (Yes I know, even Greene King), that will suit all tastes.
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Post by: wearecity on Jun 22, 2018, 05:33 AM
Pleased to see things went off without a hitch.

I still say losing my mum, will be the worse life moment, that I will suffer.

Glad to see you had lots of family and friends to help you start to move on the best you can.
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Post by: Daryl on Jun 22, 2018, 09:37 PM
I can't 'Like' any of the posts as it has disappeared from my panel...

But I'm so pleased for you emotionally that all went as smooth as it could duck x